To the woman who’s reading this,
First of all, I just love you. You are so beautiful. You have a unique personality and many gifts. You have a story behind your face. Hurts and failures. Joys and victories. I’m cheering you on. My heart wants so much good for each one of you. I’m reminded of where I was in life – not many years ago. My teenage years. And where I am now. A young, married wife just trying to learn and grow. Wow. I just look back on all the lessons I have learned – and some that I am still trying to learn… and I realize that my pursuit of Virtue should have been my top priority constantly. It is so easy to become distracted, I know. However, I encourage you to give everything to God now, not to wait until a more “convenient” time. Being a Christian and pursuing Christlikeness is where it’s “at” and where it counts. I pray something God says through me & this post today will speak to you, and that God will help us on our pursuit to become Virtuous Women.
To start out, you must first define Virtue.
According to a couple different dictionaries, Virtue is…
- Behavior showing high moral standards.
- Conformity to a standard of right
- Moral excellence, righteousness, or goodness
Secondly, we must look to a Biblical example of Virtue, the “Proverbs 31 Woman.”
Proverbs 31: 11 – 31
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. (She is far more precious than jewels.) The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no lack of gain. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many daughters/women have done virtuously, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.
I don’t know about you… but reading that passage overwhelms me. Here’s exactly what I think…
To become a virtuous woman seems just downright impossible.
But… Is it, really?
Check out these verses.
2 Peter 1: 3 & 5
According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue… giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue.
You and I are C A L L E D to be women of virtue.
Overwhelming? Maybe. Doable? Definitely.
I am a FIRM believer that God doesn’t call you to something that is impossible.
Is becoming a virtuous woman overwhelming? Maybe. But, is it doable? Definitely!
Next, you have to study the “Proverbs 31 Woman.” Here’s the list I came up with.
Point 1. Qualities of a Virtuous Woman
- Not fake. Not a flirt. Not a facade.
- Wishing the best for others. Seeking the highest good of those around, even if it’s uncomfortable or unrewarded here on earth.
- Willing and hard worker.
- Looking for opportunities to be helpful. Not slacking from work that needs done.
- Makes her family her priority.
- Takes care of them. First.
- Treats her friends fairly.
- Doesn’t seek to exclude.
- Looks ahead and doesn’t forget about the future.
- She knows her worth and value.
- She treats those less than herself with care and love.
- She prepares and grows in the easy times to withstand the hard times.
- Strong, but smart.
- Carefree, not careless.
- A speaker of truth that is covered in wisdom and kindness.
- Not lazy.
- Good reputation, inside and outside the home.
- Cares more about what God thinks that what the world thinks.
- Charm is deceitful. Beauty is vain. Those things don’t last or matter.
(Side note: Wow! That’s a lot. I know. Yikes. But, the great thing is that God has promised to stay right beside us and lead and guide – Every Step of the Way!)
So, OK. We read the list of qualities. It’s not enough, though, to just observe and study the “Proverbs 31 Woman.” We have to move past that into actually “becoming” and “pursuing” the Virtuous Woman we are each called to be.
Point 2. How to become like the Virtuous Woman
You must have…
- Intelligent Perspective.
- Life is SO much more than just right now and just about you.
- Don’t forget about your future self. Who you want to be in 5, 10, 15 years.
- Inside matters more than the outside.
- Intimate Prayer.
- Talking to God.
- On the daily. On the double.
- If you don’t talk to someone, you don’t get to know them. And, in turn, they don’t get to know you. Don’t let this happen with God.
- Pouring out your soul.
- Your thoughts. Your struggles. Your sins. Your feelings. Your nothings and every-things.
- Listening for God.
- Taking time to be still.
- Get over the awkwardness and enjoy His presence.
- He WILL speak. Through His Word. Through the pastor. Through mentors. Through your conscience. Through your parents. Through music. Through quiet. Through peace.
- Taking time to be still.
- Talking to God.
- Incredible Patience.
- It doesn’t happen in a day.
- It doesn’t happen all at once.
- It’s more about the direction you are going than where you are.
- Don’t be afraid of failure. Don’t expect perfection. Be prepared to mess up. More than once.
- Intentional Pursuit.
- Leaving the past behind. Reaching forward to what is ahead.
- Letting others be who they are and where they are. You can’t dictate someone else’s J O U R N E Y. You must focus, instead, on Y O U R current growth and journey! (To the unmarried ladies: This means letting your future husband – whoever and wherever he is – stay somewhere out there in your future, where he rightfully belongs.)
If I could sum it all up for you, here’s what I’d say…
In order to become a woman of virtue, it’s gotta be…
“Christ Comes First… the rest follows.”
(I presented this to the young ladies in our youth group. I made a slideshow presentation. If that interests you, feel free to comment/contact me. I’d love for it to be useful to others, as well!)